I think what you are finding is a general fucknutier in the BDSM community
Well, interestingly, the people who made the initial criticisms of my position actually describe themselves as 'vanilla' (at least to some extent) - so the problem wasn't with bdsmers at all.
I know a number of lesbian iding women who still sleep with men, which I suspect adds to the cultural belief that all women are bi-sexual, even those who say they are not
*nod* Yes, i see what you mean; although, personally, because i distinguish between 'relationship orientation' and 'sexual orientation', it makes sense to me that some woman who only want, er, not-just-sexual? relationships with other women might nevertheless be interested in boinking men.
So I will try to use vanilla positively for my self (As in so I have been having some great vanilla sex recently) and remember not to use it to describe you.
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Date: 2006-08-17 05:53 (UTC)Well, interestingly, the people who made the initial criticisms of my position actually describe themselves as 'vanilla' (at least to some extent) - so the problem wasn't with bdsmers at all.
*nod* Yes, i see what you mean; although, personally, because i distinguish between 'relationship orientation' and 'sexual orientation', it makes sense to me that some woman who only want, er, not-just-sexual? relationships with other women might nevertheless be interested in boinking men.
Thank you, much appreciated. :-)