Verständigung

[flexibeast]

i was recently pondering why, even though i identify as bigendered, most of my writings and interactions online involve me writing as a woman. After some thought, the main reasons i've thus far come up with are:

• i was raised male. i spent years trying to squeeze myself into the male box, telling myself, as a good pro-feminist male, that i was merely a man with many traditionally 'feminine' characteristics. So it's unsurprising that, after decades of all that, i should want to place more emphasis on living and experiencing life as a woman.


• Living in a dichotomously gendered society, and not having, so to speak, "gone all the way" to identifying solely as a woman, and given my distaste for the notion that i have to visually 'pass' as a woman, in heteronormative company, to be a woman, it's relatively easy for people to read me as a male, increasingly prominent breasts aside. So again, it's no surprise that i would want to counter that by emphasising my womanhood.


• Every day, i regularly encounter attitudes and behaviours that are male-biased at best and offensively sexist at worst. And i encounter them far more often than i encounter attitudes and behaviours that are prejudiced against men. i'm thus more often driven to write about things that affect me as a woman than things that affect me as a man.


• Although many people assume that being bigendered means one is female and male in equal parts - just as people assume that being bisexual means being equally attracted to both women and men - the reality is that i identify more as a woman than as a man, which is one of the reasons i'm completely comfortable with people using female pronouns to describe me if they find the gender-neutral pronouns too clumsy / awkward / difficult.

Perhaps there are others; if so, i'll add them to this list as i think of them.
 

Comments

[sunflowerp]

I'm glad you posted this; I'd noticed quite some time ago that your "woman-flavored" posts outnumbered your "man-flavored" posts - when my brain forgets "zie", I'm more likely to think of you as "she", and it's good to know you're fine with that, and that my perceptions (in general; I've no idea how well I'm assessing individual posts) are in line with your reality.

Sunflower