Directness
2011-04-03 21:34![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flexibeastSomething i particularly enjoyed when i was active in the Melbourne swing scene was being around people who were open and direct in their sexual interest and expression.
As i wrote in a recent blog entry, i'm not particularly au fait with what are apparently commonly recognised ways of expressing sexual or romantic interest in someone. In swinger circles, however, i found this was often not an issue. People would directly ask if i'd like to play. Those with whom i'd developed friendships would do things such as casually fondling my cock, or going down on me, whilst a group of us were sitting around chatting. i didn't have to tie myself up in knots trying to work out whether or not people were flirting with me not because they wanted something more, but as an end in itself. (Or indeed, whether they simply didn't know how to say 'yes'.) And of course i very much loved and appreciated the 'integration' aspect of it all.
i've missed being in those sort of environments ....
As i wrote in a recent blog entry, i'm not particularly au fait with what are apparently commonly recognised ways of expressing sexual or romantic interest in someone. In swinger circles, however, i found this was often not an issue. People would directly ask if i'd like to play. Those with whom i'd developed friendships would do things such as casually fondling my cock, or going down on me, whilst a group of us were sitting around chatting. i didn't have to tie myself up in knots trying to work out whether or not people were flirting with me not because they wanted something more, but as an end in itself. (Or indeed, whether they simply didn't know how to say 'yes'.) And of course i very much loved and appreciated the 'integration' aspect of it all.
i've missed being in those sort of environments ....
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Date: 2011-04-07 05:55 (UTC)Of course, now I'm considering casually fondling your cock, which is distracting as anything ...
xx Dee
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Date: 2011-04-22 23:56 (UTC)*nod* That doesn't actually surprise me, as i have experienced swing environments populated by people i'm guessing were wishing they were in Eyes Wide Shut, who seemed to regard directness as terribly gauche.
Good. ;-)
too bad you're half a world away
Date: 2011-04-22 18:49 (UTC)Re: too bad you're half a world away
Date: 2011-04-22 23:59 (UTC):-) i can't be in such environments enough!
*grin* Only fondling? :-)