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flexibeasti'm crying right now. Crying because i'm tired of myself and other people being told - such as in this thread in ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
pornpositivefem - that we should just ignore harrassers, and 'just deal with it'. Despite the fact that people such as myself have to face it everywhere we go - not just online, but offline. Despite the fact that we've often had to 'just deal with it' for many years. Despite the fact that such constant harrassment puts a great deal of psychological strain on us.
And almost no-one seems to care.
i've left thepornpositivefem community. That so many people there are so willing to immediately place a share of blame on the victim means that it's a community that i can no longer be part of.
i'm so tired, and upset: tired and upset because i think it's outrageous that it so often seems to be myself, and other victims of harrassment, who feel forced to keep away from a group, rather than the harrassers themselves; and i'm also tired and upset as a result of people constantly telling me how i 'should' feel about a particular situation.
Empathy Deficit Disorder is everywhere, and it's crushing me.
Update, 12:15pm
i've passed through the crying stage now, and have returned to the rage stage: i've recently posted an rant on thefeminist_rage community LJ about all this; and i've also posted an entry on the pleasureact community LJ about harrassment and the LJ Terms of Service.
pornpositivefem - that we should just ignore harrassers, and 'just deal with it'. Despite the fact that people such as myself have to face it everywhere we go - not just online, but offline. Despite the fact that we've often had to 'just deal with it' for many years. Despite the fact that such constant harrassment puts a great deal of psychological strain on us.And almost no-one seems to care.
i've left the
pornpositivefem community. That so many people there are so willing to immediately place a share of blame on the victim means that it's a community that i can no longer be part of. i'm so tired, and upset: tired and upset because i think it's outrageous that it so often seems to be myself, and other victims of harrassment, who feel forced to keep away from a group, rather than the harrassers themselves; and i'm also tired and upset as a result of people constantly telling me how i 'should' feel about a particular situation.
Empathy Deficit Disorder is everywhere, and it's crushing me.
Update, 12:15pm
i've passed through the crying stage now, and have returned to the rage stage: i've recently posted an rant on the
feminist_rage community LJ about all this; and i've also posted an entry on the pleasureact community LJ about harrassment and the LJ Terms of Service.
Keep on keeping on!
Date: 2005-05-24 23:38 (UTC)Fight the harassers. These people are the ones who should have to change or leave, every time the victim leaves, the harassers win. We can't let this happen!
Many people seem to behave in an appalling manner online; safe from the normal rigours of social convention and the need to be accepted, they will freely indulge in offensive and aggressive behaviour that would never be tolerated in real life. It's awful.
You are on the right track, and you are not the person who needs to change their attitude and/or perspective. The internet makes it possible for people from many diverse backgrounds and societies to come together, to meet others who share their attitudes, and to meet people with very different ideas about life. To make this work requires tolerance, and bludgeoning people who happen to have a different idea of what makes life "tick" is not the way to do it.
Keep on believing in yourself, and stand your ground. I know you can do it!
Matt
Re: Keep on keeping on!
Date: 2005-05-25 00:05 (UTC)