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[flexibeast]

i'm crying right now. Crying because i'm tired of myself and other people being told - such as in this thread in pornpositivefem - that we should just ignore harrassers, and 'just deal with it'. Despite the fact that people such as myself have to face it everywhere we go - not just online, but offline. Despite the fact that we've often had to 'just deal with it' for many years. Despite the fact that such constant harrassment puts a great deal of psychological strain on us.

And almost no-one seems to care.

i've left the pornpositivefem community. That so many people there are so willing to immediately place a share of blame on the victim means that it's a community that i can no longer be part of.

i'm so tired, and upset: tired and upset because i think it's outrageous that it so often seems to be myself, and other victims of harrassment, who feel forced to keep away from a group, rather than the harrassers themselves; and i'm also tired and upset as a result of people constantly telling me how i 'should' feel about a particular situation.

Empathy Deficit Disorder is everywhere, and it's crushing me.

Update, 12:15pm

i've passed through the crying stage now, and have returned to the rage stage: i've recently posted an rant on the feminist_rage community LJ about all this; and i've also posted an entry on the pleasureact community LJ about harrassment and the LJ Terms of Service.

Comments

[naked-wrat.livejournal.com]

I'm really sick of people like the people we encounted in pornpostivefem. Hopefully we can find people out in cyberspace that are open minded, empathetic and cool people. We just gotta find em. *big huge passionate hugs and kisses*

[flexibeast.livejournal.com]

*returns passionate hugs and kisses* i think we can . . . . because it's been happening, and is continuing to happen. :-)