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2006-03-02 16:05![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flexibeastOkay. i am very angry.
i have a message that i need to scream out to the world:
DON'T CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER AND CALL IT POLYAMORY!
By 'cheat' i here mean "agree to have one relationship style with your partner and then break that agreement - especially on the sly".
This issue has come up a few times in my life recently. Essentially, the scenario is: "i want to have a relationship with someone other than my wife. She hasn't agreed to that, but i'll do it anyway. i'm polyamorous."
Since WHEN has polyamory been simply another word for cheating? The fact is, IT'S NOT.
You know, i've been forced to reconsider my position that polyamory doesn't include the concept of casual sex. i note again that i wholeheartedly endore the concept of casual sex - i just haven't believed that it's part of the concept of polyamory. But someone said something today that made me reconsider that. i'm not entirely convinced, but i'm certainly reconsidering my stance.
i will NOT, however, change my opinion that polyamory involves behaving ETHICALLY and HONESTLY.
And i will continue to get furious at people who help perpetuate the notion that "polyamory is simply cheating" by cheating and then trying to hide their poor behaviour behind the shield of 'polyamory'.
i have a message that i need to scream out to the world:
DON'T CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER AND CALL IT POLYAMORY!
By 'cheat' i here mean "agree to have one relationship style with your partner and then break that agreement - especially on the sly".
This issue has come up a few times in my life recently. Essentially, the scenario is: "i want to have a relationship with someone other than my wife. She hasn't agreed to that, but i'll do it anyway. i'm polyamorous."
Since WHEN has polyamory been simply another word for cheating? The fact is, IT'S NOT.
You know, i've been forced to reconsider my position that polyamory doesn't include the concept of casual sex. i note again that i wholeheartedly endore the concept of casual sex - i just haven't believed that it's part of the concept of polyamory. But someone said something today that made me reconsider that. i'm not entirely convinced, but i'm certainly reconsidering my stance.
i will NOT, however, change my opinion that polyamory involves behaving ETHICALLY and HONESTLY.
And i will continue to get furious at people who help perpetuate the notion that "polyamory is simply cheating" by cheating and then trying to hide their poor behaviour behind the shield of 'polyamory'.
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Date: 2006-03-03 15:32 (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-03-04 05:18 (UTC)